Weekly Guiding Teacher Reflection

Dear Common Ground Friends,

Is it possible to change the quality of our life simply by cultivating a sincere interest in calmness? Because of habit, our attention is often drawn to what is dramatic, intense, and personally juicy. However, the heart can be trained to be equally interested in what is simple, peaceful, and calming. If we actually check we might find that there are always elements in our experience that are supportive of calm. For example, what is the effect on our heart when we relate to the moment with real tenderness? You might find that this way of relating supports a sense of increased safety and calm. Or, what happens when we attune to a spacious, inclusive sense of the present moment even while taking care of the details of life? Perhaps developing and maintaining calm doesn’t have to oppose taking care of the details of life.

When things are intense, it can seem inappropriate to purposefully attend to aspects of the present moment that are conducive to tranquility. Valuing calm does not mean we are neglecting our duties and responsibilities; we are simply finding better ways to show up to our lives that are more functional and compassionate. A heart, body, and mind established in calm sees more clearly and feels more deeply. This intimacy allows for a skillful response. “Only just connect,” is a useful invitation to practice. But true receptivity requires that our heart is actually calm and safe enough to be interested and receptive. An agitated, ungrounded mind is unable to care for our well-being or the well-being of others. It is understandable that we get agitated; it isn’t easy living a human life. And yet, agitation and reactivity don’t help us to be free from stress. It is truly heartbreaking to consider how much suffering we have all set in motion reacting to stressful situations in ways that cause more stress. Perhaps calm can be a resonating value in our hearts that we keep in mind at all times. Let’s find out for ourselves what this sets in motion in our lives and in our world.

Peace,
Mark Nunberg
Co-Guiding Teacher

P.S. Consider registering for the twice-annual Community Practice Intensive in June as a way to develop more calm and tranquility in your life. More information here.